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What to do when you cant make amends?
Here Are Some Options To Explore
- Make amends to yourself first and foremost. Find all the ways you hurt yourself by doing what you did.
- If the person is dead, or out of contact, try writing an amends letter to that person as if they were alive and read it to them mentally.
- Make amends by paying it forward.
Is Making Amends the same as apologizing?
Think of amends as actions taken that demonstrate your new way of life in recovery, whereas apologies are basically words. When you make amends, you acknowledge and align your values to your actions by admitting wrongdoing and then living by your principles.
How do you forgive yourself when you can’t make amends?
How to Forgive Yourself
- Focus on your emotions.
- Acknowledge the mistake out loud.
- Think of each mistake as a learning experience.
- Give yourself permission to put this process on hold.
- Have a conversation with your inner critic.
- Notice when you are being self-critical.
- Quiet the negative messages of your inner critic.
How do I ask to make amends?
There are steps you take to make amends, which include:
- Take stock of the damage you caused.
- Express the desire to repair it.
- Admit to your mistakes.
- Find a way to repair the damage.
- Be patient about getting someone’s trust back.
What does STEP 7 mean in AA?
Step Seven of AA’s Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Step program of recovery is about getting rid of character defects and replacing them by practicing humility & spiritual principles. Working on the seventh step requires constant thoughtfulness and commitment to being honest, courageous and humble.
What are indirect amends?
An indirect amend refers more to the thoughts and attitudes behind the behavior. You can make a direct amend to someone, such as repaying them for the money you stole and then follow it up with an indirect amend, such as modifying your attitude and not asking for or expecting your loved one to give you money.