What happens when you break up with a borderline ex-partner?
So you just broke up with your borderline ex-partner (who suffers from borderline personality disorder, that is). Like a regular breakup, you’re probably feeling all types of emotions and have questions running through your mind. Should you stay in touch with your ex?
When to use no contact with someone with borderline personality disorder?
This is usually done in cases where the relationship was abusive and/or the BP is abusive during the breakup. Why is no contact employed with people with BPD? Well, for starters, borderline personality disorder centers on a key part: an intense fear of abandonment and behaviors to avoid being abandoned.
How to recover from BPD relationship abuse?
First and foremost, when it comes to recovering from abuse in your BPD relationship, you need to understand that the abuse thrown your way was their choice. Your partner chose to treat you a certain way.
Why do people with BPD have a hard time with relationships?
A lot of people who get into BPD relationships tend to lack the emotional control needed in relationships. That’s how I was. I let myself get carried away and fall victim to these women who used me, hurt me, cheated on me and so on.
Can a person with BPD be in a relationship with an ex?
Many people are in relationships with people who have personality disorders, including BPD, but aren’t even aware of the disorder. So, for them, it can be even harder to make sense of the situation and figure out how to respond. You have the benefit of actually knowing that your ex has this condition.
How do you deal with a BPD partner who won’t change?
Your former partner is not going to change unless they receive BPD treatment. So abandon hope and try to look out for yourself so that you get your needs met. Cut off contact. A person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder can experience depression and anger when a relationship ends.