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What do you say to an estranged relative?
Here are some ways you might start the conversation:
- “I know we haven’t had any contact for a long time. But I’d like to change that.”
- “I am sure hearing from me is a bit of a surprise, but I’m hoping we can have a conversation.”
- “I’ve missed having you in my life. I’m hoping we can get together for coffee and talk.”
How do you reconcile with a family member?
For those who do want to reach out, experts recommend the following approach:
- Reach out to the person/family.
- Communicate clearly.
- Consider family counselling, especially if thorny and unresolved issues remain.
- Acknowledge that it will take time and effort to rebuild trust and respect.
Should you send condolence gifts to an estranged family?
If you don’t have a good relationship with the estranged family, it’s okay to keep your distance with your condolence gift. Another appropriate gift is to offer your help.
How do you deal with an estranged family member?
Prepare yourself with a short script for what to say if you’re confronted. The best approach is usually to be dismissive but polite. Finally, surround yourself with those who support you or keep distance when needed. Setting healthy boundaries is key when dealing with estranged friends and family. How long should you stay?
Is there a way to forgive an estranged family member?
There is no perfect way to forgive someone, which also means there may be no perfect way to move forward. “It doesn’t necessarily mean that the other person is going to show remorse, or going to change overnight,” she said. Attempts to reconnect with an estranged family member don’t always end in reconciliation.
How do you deal with disappointment in family members?
Don’t bottle things up. Communicate your feelings to people you trust. If the person knows your relative, you may learn that they also share the same feelings of hurt and disappointment in dealing with him/her. Talking through your feelings is therapeutic and helps you acquire perspective about the situation.