What do you do when you want kids but your husband doesn t?
What If My Partner Doesn’t Want Kids, And I Do?
- Forgive Yourself For Not Addressing it “Sooner”
- Get Professional Help.
- Explore All Roads to Parenthood.
- Try and Parse Out Whether ‘Not Now’ Really Means ‘Never’
- Consider Your Own Motivations.
- Understand Your Partner’s Motivations.
- Put Yourself in The Other’s Place — Literally.
Why does my husband not want me to have a baby?
Maybe he feels that he’ll miss out on spending more time with you just as the kids are becoming more independent. He could also be afraid that the pregnancy will go badly, or that because he’s older, the child is at risk for complications or long-term health issues he doesn’t feel he could handle.
How do I choose not to have children?
Choosing not to have children must come from your heartfelt desire not to have them. Be clear about your reasons for making this choice and be able to enumerate them. And beware if your list of reasons is merely a hollow echo of your partner’s. 3. No going back.
Is having a child more important to your husband than your suffering?
But there’s a catch: Because you believe that having this child means more to you than not having this child means to your husband—and because he had originally agreed to three kids—your suffering trumps his. A marriage, however, isn’t the Pain Olympics. As you’ve seen, this line of thinking keeps you stuck.
Should you ask your partner if he should have kids?
Your partner isn’t asking the woman next to him on the subway whether he should have kids. He doesn’t need to. He’s resolute in his decision. And so should you be. Yes, ask questions, but ask them of yourself. 6. Why bother? If you’ve always unquestionably assumed you’d have a family, now’s the time to ask yourself why.