How do you resolve past issues?
How to Let Go of Things from the Past
- Create a positive mantra to counter the painful thoughts.
- Create physical distance.
- Do your own work.
- Practice mindfulness.
- Be gentle with yourself.
- Allow the negative emotions to flow.
- Accept that the other person may not apologize.
- Engage in self-care.
Why does a person live in the past?
While some people live in the past because they don’t want to deal with the present, others live in the past for fear of what may come in the future. You may be fearful of the future if: 1. You find yourself feeling very anxious about what may happen in the next few months and/or years.
How do you deal with a partner who brings up the past?
If you have a habit of bringing up the past during fights, you and your partner should talk about that pattern. Come to an agreement that your partner can remind you that you are bringing up material that is off the table during a fight. You can have a keyword or phrase, as a gentle reminder of the pact the two of you made.
Why does my partner keep bringing up past issues defensively?
Most likely, when a partner keeps bringing up past issues defensively, they are feeling extremely insecure in the relationship and they aren’t getting something significant that they are needing.
How to deal with emotions during a fight with your partner?
Come to an agreement that your partner can remind you that you are bringing up material that is off the table during a fight. You can have a keyword or phrase, as a gentle reminder of the pact the two of you made. This will help reorient and ground you during a fight. It can be the very thing that brings your emotions down.
What to do when you are fighting about the same things?
If you are still fighting about the same old things, it’s time to give each other space and work towards living in the present and planning your journey ahead, not backwards. There are steps you can take to overcome bringing up the past all the time, whether it’s yours or your partner’s.