Why is politeness bad?
Psychologists say that although being polite helps get us through awkward social situations, it can have hidden perils in emergencies. They found that our tendency to be vague and evasive in order to spare someone’s feelings can cause confusion when a person’s safety is at risk.
Is it bad to be too polite?
If you feel like you might be too polite, it’s OK! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being polite and considerate of others. If you feel like your desire to be polite is pushing back your own needs and fulfillment, though, it’s important to step back and reevaluate the situation.
Why does politeness exist?
As a process, politeness serves many uses. It makes interaction with strangers easier, and often more efficient. The need to be polite can be used as a means to avoid issues, to avoid conflict, to avoid talking about difficult issues.
How does politeness affect communication?
Politeness gets your message delivered and responded to in the ways you want. When you communicate with courtesy and with a posture that seeks a positive outcome, that will likely get your message across without push back or dismissal. A polite person (or company) will have a stronger, more persuasive brand.
What do you call fake politeness?
If someone is being nice and they mean it, usually you say that their generosity or hospitality is sincere or genuine. Conversely, If someone is being nice, but they’re faking it, usually you say that their generosity or hospitality is insincere and you can characterize them as disingenuous.
Does politpoliteness assume that we all have face?
Politeness assumes that we all have face, and we all have face wants and needs. Further, there are different types of face threatened in various face-threatening acts, and sometimes the face threats are to the hearer, while other times they are to the speaker.
Where did the concept of politeness come from?
It was developed and put forth in the 1970s and 1980s by two researchers at Stanford University. They drew heavily from face theory, advancing face theory in the direction of, and with a focus on, politeness.
What is politpoliteness theory in psychology?
Politeness theory relies, in part, on the idea that there are different kinds of face: positive face and negative face. Positive face reflects an individual’s need for his or her wishes and desires to be appreciated in a social context. This is the maintenance of a positive and consistent self-image.
What are some examples of positive politeness?
Examples of positive politeness include compliments, and might also include statements such as, “I really like the way you’ve done this,” or, “It took me forever to figure this out, but what I eventually came to was…” or,”You know it’s always important to me to do the best job I can, and I know the same is true for you.