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What to say when someone says it hurts?
Here are FIVE THINGS we COULD say to someone who is some serious pain.
- This really stinks. Or, this really is awful/heartbreaking/painful.
- My heart breaks WITH yours. Empathy from others is felt when it’s real.
- You are NOT ALONE. Then, don’t leave them alone…just show up, be present…
- You are doing GREAT.
- Nothing.
How do you ease someone’s pain?
10 tips for supporting someone through emotional pain and loss
- The Power Of Your Presence. Many people think they have to say something in order to be helpful.
- The Power Of Silence.
- Validation.
- Reframing.
- Use Yourself But Not The Moment.
- Avoid Giving Advice.
- Offer Concrete Help.
- Follow Up.
How do you comfort someone who is hurt?
How to Show Real Compassion
- Let it be all about them. Say simply “I am so sad that you’re hurting.” Or “I can’t imagine what you’re going through.” People often foolishly say, “I understand because I had…” and go on to describe their own painful experience.
- Listen. The kindest thing you can do is to not talk.
- Help.
When a guy say he doesn’t want a relationship?
When a man says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, the first thing to say is, “I understand.” Then, say nothing else. Pause, wait, and then he will magically begin to respond and explain his reasons. If at no point you argued with him, or tried to discount and change his mind, you have accomplished step one.
How do you comfort?
Best 10 Ways To Comfort Someone
- Acknowledge Their Feelings. “I hear you…
- Repeat Their Feelings.
- Draw Their Emotions Out.
- Don’t Minimize Their Pain.
- Be There For Them, Right At That Moment.
- Offer Physical Affection, When Appropriate.
- Express Your Support.
- Tell Them They’re Special.
How do you deal with someone who has hurt you?
If someone has hurt you, chances are they’re suffering themselves. When both parties feel pain that they believe the other caused, they will already be on the defensive. I believe the only place from which we can work through those old woundings is one of stability, of love and trust.
Should you confront the person who has hurt you?
If you determine that you need to confront the person who has hurt you, offer only your point of view about the incident. It is amazing how many confrontations you can diffuse by removing defensiveness and hostility. When you stick to what you are feeling, you give the other person permission to explain his or her point of view.
Is being betrayed by someone you love more difficult?
Being betrayed by someone you love, for instance, is far more difficult than being cheated upon by a business partner or colleague at work. The latter makes you angry but the former hurts your sense of self. In both cases though, the reaction of the person at the receiving end is similar.
How can I pray for someone who has hurt me?
Set aside some prayerful moments to ask the Lord to search your heart, and write your feelings in a letter to Him. Catalogue your heartache, and don’t stop with the feelings you have regarding your friend. Include feelings toward others who have hurt you. You may be surprised at the common threads that run through your relationships.