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What is collateral damage in relationships?
When a marriage, romantic relationships, or friendship is dissolved, it will likely result in “collateral damage” within intersecting friendscapes. This can be especially difficult when the sacrifice of a partner or friend leads to the loss of mutual friends you cherished as companions and confidantes.
When a person is collateral damage?
Collateral damage is any death, injury, or other damage inflicted that is an incidental result of an activity. Originally coined by military operations, it is now also used in non-military contexts.
What happens to the victims of narcissists when they fall apart?
The victims are ejected, discarded, and left on the scrap heap. They are isolated and smeared. Before they can pull themselves together again, the narc is back for more with a Hoover manoeuvre aimed at sucking their prey back in for another chew before spitting them out again.
Does a narcissist have to display all the traits associated with narcissism?
By the way, the narcissist does not have to display all of the traits associated with the full blown pathological stage of narcissism in order to do untold damage to their victims. For that reason, therapists need to familiarize themselves about narcissistic traits and the relationship dynamics between the narcissist and their victim.
What do victims of narcissistic abuse need to know?
But Victims also need to be aware of their own role in their abuse. By taking heed of what the narcissist says, by taking it personally what the narcissist does, by sticking around in their sphere of influence, the victim is handing the narcissist the power to abuse them.
How do narcissists defend themselves?
One of those defenses is to develop a “False Self”; which is a mask of behaviour that allows them to put on a show of being real in public. However, this pretense leaves the narcissist constantly guarding themselves from being “found out”, making them overly sensitive to narcissistic injury.