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How does a second child change your marriage?
When researchers examined marital changes one year after the birth of the second child, most couples were more positive than negative about their marriages and managed the transition with little change. Overall, couples experienced only minor disruption when the new baby was added to the family.
Are second babies always harder?
Research carried out by scientists at MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) in the US suggests that in multiple-child families the second-born is 25 to 40 per cent more likely than their older sibling to end up getting into trouble at school.
What happens if you don’t have the third child?
If you don’t have the third child, your husband will be happy and you’ll be resentful. But there’s a catch: Because you believe that having this child means more to you than not having this child means to your husband—and because he had originally agreed to three kids—your suffering trumps his.
Can a man change his mind after having 3 kids?
You say that had your husband not agreed to the three kids back then, you never would have fallen in love with him—but the fact is, you did fall in love with him, and what you’re missing is that he’s the same person now that he was back then. People can change their minds without changing who they are.
Why does my husband not want me to have a baby?
Maybe he feels that he’ll miss out on spending more time with you just as the kids are becoming more independent. He could also be afraid that the pregnancy will go badly, or that because he’s older, the child is at risk for complications or long-term health issues he doesn’t feel he could handle.
Is having a child more important to your husband than your suffering?
But there’s a catch: Because you believe that having this child means more to you than not having this child means to your husband—and because he had originally agreed to three kids—your suffering trumps his. A marriage, however, isn’t the Pain Olympics. As you’ve seen, this line of thinking keeps you stuck.