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How do I convince my husband to adopt a child?
Let him know that you want to start getting educated on adoption and ask his permission to share the information with him as you go along. Don’t expect him to be as enthusiastic as you. Join an online adoption support group for people considering adoption. Encourage your partner to participate as well.
Can I adopt if my husband doesnt want to?
Not everyone should adopt nor will everyone want to adopt. It is okay if any person does not choose to adopt a child and their choice should be respected. However, I completely understand that that does not make it easier for you as a spouse who has a heart for adoption.
Does one spouse want to adopt and the other does not?
Easy answers elude me when one spouse wants to adopt and the other does not. My hubby and I had always planned on adopting, but we hadn’t necessarily planned on having four children. After our third child was born, I still felt a very strong pull to adopt. My husband did not.
How can I help my spouse become an adoptive parent?
Spend time enjoying your life as a couple. Remember why you married each other in the first place. Attend an “in person” support group for adoptive families or an informational meeting at an adoption agency, with the promise that this does not mean a commitment to adopt.
How do I tell my husband I want to adopt?
Yin and yang are great for philosophical discussions, but lousy for decision making if one partner is stuck at yin while the other is clinging to yang for dear life. Let him know that you want to start getting educated on adoption and ask his permission to share the information with him as you go along.
Should you give your partner an ultimatum before you become parents?
As hard as it may be, give your partner time. Each of us has a different speed and style for processing grief and making decisions. If you are totally committed to him or her regardless of whether you ever become parents, say so. If not, talk with a therapist before you issue an ultimatum.