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How do you get your parents to let you be more independent?
Talk to your parents about your own independence. Explain to them that you think you’re making good decisions and that you’d like to have more trust and freedom. Avoid yelling or calling them names, even if they insist on continuing to make rules for you.
How do you get your strict parents to let you go out?
Have your parents talk to your friends or any chaperones. Give them the opportunity to call and talk with the other parents. Showing your parents that you will have supervision will help convince them to let you go out. If you don’t have adults going with you, don’t lie to your parents and say that there are some.
Why are some parents unable to let go of their children?
These parents have allowed their own emotional needs to take over the parent-child relationship as they tried to hold onto their children. In doing so, they run the risk of losing their children. Some co-dependent parents are unable to let go of their children as they pass through adolescence and enter young adulthood.
Why do parents stay close to their children?
As the children grow, their parents don’t allow them to try new skills, behaviors or beliefs. Instead, they stick closely to their children as they attempt to shield them from hurt or disappointment. During the college years, parents may continue hovering, albeit at long distances.
Are your adult children too inexperienced to manage their lives?
Some parents, believing that their adult children are too inexperienced to make decisions, pull all stops to manage their lives. They inadvertently become “monster parents”. Many of them interfere with their children’s activities and relationships.
How do I deal with my parents who are controlling?
Develop a plan to set boundaries and gain control of your life. Make the decision to stand up to them, and not get overly angry. Do not obsess over pleasing them; remember that you have your life to live. You cannot change your parents; that is a fact you must accept.