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What do you do when someone attacks you verbally?
Taking the Sting out of Insulting Words
- Allow yourself to ruminate in a healthy way. It’s normal to replay upsetting events in your mind to get a handle on them.
- Identify the other person’s (possible) motive.
- Turn the spotlight inward.
- Know what words really are.
- Own your vulnerability.
- Resolve to speak up next time.
How do you apologize to someone who hurt you years ago?
Open up a line of communication with the other person. A sincere apology can also bring relief, particularly if you have guilt over your actions. An apology alone doesn’t erase the hurt or make it OK; it does establish that you know your actions or words were wrong and that you will strive harder in the future to prevent it from happening again.
What happens if you don’t apologize for something you did wrong?
An apology alone doesn’t erase the hurt or make it OK, but it does establish that you know your actions or words were wrong and that you will strive harder in the future to prevent it from happening again. Not apologizing when you are wrong can be damaging to your personal and professional relationships.
Why is it important to apologize in a relationship?
If a social rule is violated or trust is broken, an apology helps to affirm what kind of future behavior is preferred. Discussing what type of rules you both will adhere to in the future will rebuild trust, boundaries, and positive feelings, and provides a natural segue out of the conflict, and into a happier future in the relationship.
What should I do if I have done to hurt my spouse?
No matter what you have done to hurt your spouse, you must make yourself open and willing to answer any questions they may have regarding your betrayal. The more serious your offense, the more likely it is that you’ll have to answer a lot of questions. And those questions may come up repeatedly over a period of time.